I come from a family where I witnessed how patterns of unhappiness and unfulfilled needs were passed down. I judged my mum for staying in a difficult situation: why didn't she leave if she was so unhappy? Why did she allow herself to be treated badly?
My first serious relationship in London showed me why. For 5 years I was stuck in a toxic relationship: unhappy, lonely, and helpless. I repeated all my mum's mistakes. I learned that leaving something that is bad for us is not that easy. This is how I discovered I had so much work to do on myself.
When I finally left, I was determined not to be in a similar situation ever again. So, I started searching, experimenting, learning. Some tools were so beneficial that I decided to learn them myself.